Wedding Banns

The three weeks for posting our wedding banns are done.
Mabuti naman at walang tumutol. Hahaha! Subukan lang nila.

Sa church nila Momon, maganda ang banns, sa church namin, hindi man lang pinost.

Our Wedding Invitation

Momon and I love our invitations!
We can't wait to give it to our guests. Sana magustuhan din nila. :-)

The Surefire Way to Convert Money Into Happiness

This is article is such an eye opener. Although I consider myself a good financial manager, I still learned loads from this piece.

Momon says this is just the same-old wants vs needs concept, but I beg to disagree. I think what Martha Beck shows here is that wants and needs do not need to compete, and that there are ways we can still get want we want even if we do not need them. I also like how it helps us determine how much part of our income can we allot for each quadrant in the matrix.

Now, let me see how I applied the matrix into my wedding stuff, and how Momon and I can apply this to our finances as a couple. Please do read on.

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The Surefire Way to Convert Money Into Happiness
By Martha Beck
O, The Oprah Magazine | July 15, 2010

Long ago, so long ago that I was practically still a gill-breather, I noticed a magazine ad that claimed the average person earns $700,000 over an entire lifetime. I have no idea how they came to that number, but I never forgot the words splashed in big, bold letters across the page:

WHAT WILL YOU DO WITH YOUR $700,000?

I was lucky to encounter this question so early on, because it's lurked in my mind ever since, reminding me that I want to spend my life's earnings creating the most satisfying experiences I can. That might mean buying and using certain objects, paying someone for life-enhancing services, or donating to good causes.

This is a type of wealth management, but the wealth isn't money; it's happiness. And to reap as much of it as possible, I've come up with a little system to maximize the joy dividend in all my money decisions. This strategy may sound odd to actual financial advisers, but when I've ignored it—even to make what appear to be fiscally sound choices—my joie de vivre has declined. I've learned that sticking to my rules makes things turn out far better, and I'm hoping that if you adopt this system, it will work for you, too.

Discovery Weekend (Ros' Account)

Momon and I attended the Discovery Weekend last July 2-4. It is a marriage preparation workshop conducted by the aptly named Marriage Preparation Foundation, Inc.

Much of what Momon and I experienced during the weekend cannot be put into words. So I acknowledge that this account is completely inadequate in sharing what we have gained in the workshop. Still, I will try my best to write down some thoughts with hopes that you will also decide to invest in your marriage and partnership, the way we did, with Discovery Weekend.

Discovery Weekend (Momon's Account)

I have to admit that I had my doubts with DW. I felt that it was going to be a waste of time and money. There are many successful marriages that did not go through DW. I felt that we could use the money elsewhere since there are cheaper and less time consuming alternatives.

Also, guys have a hard time sharing their feelings, even to their partners. I’m not exactly the expressive type. So why pay for something that I don’t even like doing?

Another thing, Ros and I have been together for almost 9 years. What else is there to know about her? What else is there to talk about and share? I thought that this was going to be a useless exercise.

After the DW experience, I admit that I was wrong with my initial impressions. First, regarding the fee, the organization is nonstock and nonprofit. The money will be used for future DW and other outreach programs. For two night’s stay and plenty of food and snacks, the fee is reasonable. The experience is also, as cheesy as this may sound, priceless.

Regarding the sharing of feelings, you won’t actually share with the other couples. You will only share your thoughts and feelings with your partner. There is no other venue or opportunity to share your innermost thoughts like DW.

I found out that length of time as a couple is relevant with DW. Ros and I are together for almost nine years. During the weekend, we affirmed our past experiences. We revisited special moments and determined what made it special for us. We also shared with each other our expectations for our future as couple.

I would recommend DW to all couples getting married or having plans of getting married. This experience won’t change your life, but it’s a start.


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For more information, please visit: http://www.discoveryweekend.org/

Monthly Amortizations, Done!

Finally, napuno na ang chart! Imagine, a chart that was started in December 2007--that's almost 3 years ago; a chart that we go to every month logging on payments and always making sure it balances with the bank records and keeps with the prescribed wedding budget.

Puno na! Dati we got excited that it's at 50% or 60%, now it reads 100%!

We have 3 months to go. We have also each made 50% payments to our deficit (discussed in previous entry). Pag nakabayad na kami sa deficit, all the rest we'll be earning will go straight to savings or as addition to the start up money we need. Hay, this is a nice feeling. Nung una akala namin we're in trouble, ngayon... it's looking positive naman. I am so proud of myself and Momon.

We will keep this system of making monthly amortizations. It's a great way to discipline ourselves with money, learning to prioritize savings, and living within our means. Perhaps the first months/year will be difficult since it's both our first time to live completely, as in 100%, apart from our parents and not relying on them for dinner, water, electricity, etc. But we are together, and that's what matters. :-)

Deficit

I'll say it straight: We have a P50,000 deficit in our wedding budget. ARUY.

Hindi kasi namin sinama sa original budget and honeymoon, documents, additional transportation, house, choir, pre-cana seminar and DIY items.

Meron kaming savings sa wedding rings at venue. Nagsponsor din ang family namin ng guest favors, wedding attires and cake. Pero all these savings went to the excess payment for the documentation and food. At ang dumali talaga samin are the items na di namin pinasok sa umpisa. So, in essence, wala kaming deficit, ng problem ay ang items na di pinasok.

Kaso lang hindi naman essence ang usapan dito.

But no worries, kaya to: P25,000 each. I am still thankful that Momon is an accountant who can figure out our budget deficit precisely, that I was and still am very diligent in writing down all our wedding expenses since we started in Jan 2009, and most importantly, that we have savings and jobs from where we can derive the deficit from.

Isa lang to sa mga pagsubok namin. Bring it on.

Solid.

It's now only 17 weeks or should I say 17 WEEKENDS till our wedding. Remove 1 weekend for a workshop our office is implementing, and another for Discovery Weekend, and possibly some more weekends for work.

It may seem like we have a lot of time, but when weekdays are spent for intense fitness regimen first thing in the morning, full-time jobs throughout the day, wedding research and tasks until we fall asleep at night, weekends are all we really have for the actual legwork.

Just this last weekend, Momon and I were supposed to be in Puerto Galera with Ben, Rhea and Vincent. But we were threatened by Friday's downpour so we decided to cancel. A blessing in disguise, I would say, cause we were able to send out our save the date cards, finalize our website for guests, visit two of our Principal Sponsor and start house-hunting.

I remember a line something like this in Bride Wars: The final weeks of wedding preparation is like a litmus test for couples. Others breakdown, while others draw strength from each other.

At this point in the preps, I'm proud to say Momon and I are the latter. Momon and I have worked on school assignments, reports, presentations, planning trips, etc. This is undoubtedly our biggest project yet, and I'm confident we'll ace it. Our teamwork is superb, our decisions on point, and our efforts focused. We don't feel rattled, but we know the urgency. We are no longer get swayed by new wedding ideas or comments by other people, because our vision for our wedding is clear, and we are confident with all our choices. And finally, we are also starting to feel not just our excitement, but also that of the people we are planning to celebrate our union with.

Save the Date: October 2!

Yahoo! Finally we are ready to release our Save the Date cards.

Thank you very much to our dear friends who helped us accomplish this task. We couldn't have done it without you. Grabe, para tayong bumalik sa mga project natin nung high school!

Photos by Ben. Styling by Rhea. Expressions-coaching by Ben and Rhea. Letterings by Vincent. Layout facilitated by Hanna. Cuteness by Cello.

Thank you again! Mwah!

Birth Certificates

Feel ko na talaga na malapit na ang wedding kasi inaayos na namin ang documents. This is really is it.

Here are our pretty NSO-issued birth certificates ordered through NSO Helpline 737 1111.
Very easy ang procedure:

1. Call 737 1111
2. Provide the following information:

• Complete name of person to be certified
• Complete name of father
• Complete maiden name of mother
• Date of birth
• Place of birth
• Info if you were registered late or if there are corrections in your birth certificate
• Complete name and address of requesting party
• Number of copies needed
• Purpose of certificate

3. We applied for both birth certificate and CENOMAR. The customer service agent will just apply the same details to your CENOMAR application.

4. They will ask you to note down the reference number. 1 reference number per certificate. So, for us it was four reference numbers, 2 for birth certificates and 2 for CENOMARs.

5. Pay for the service in any Metrobank branch. 1 birth certificate is P330, and 1 CENOMAR is P430. We got 2 copies each... tatlo palang birth certificate para sakin dahil sa baptismal certificate issue ko (Boo!).

When filling up your Metrobank payment slip use the green slip, 1 per reference number. Use NSO Helpline as Company Name, and the name of the requesting party as the Account Name.

You can also pay in Bancnet ATM and Bayad Centers

6. Birth certificate is processed within 4 working days, and the CENOMAR within 7 working days. Make sure to provide an authorization letter in case you're not the one to receive the package. The authorized recipient also needs to have an ID.


Ay salamat, nakuha na ito. And thanks to our parents who made sure all entries are correct!

Here they are!

Monogram

Parang requirement yata sa mga ikakasal ang pagkakaron ng monogram. Sige, sali na rin ako.

Actually, ang sakto:
RM = Ros and Momon
RM = Raymund Macachor
RM = Rosana Macachor, coming soon pa lang.

Pasok! So, hanap na lang ako sa mga logo and design sites ng mga monogram na RM. I wanted something na hindi tali sa wedding, at hindi sobrang feminine. We're going to use it beyond the wedding, kaya walang date.

Eto napili namin ni Momon:

In its original colors
Thank you sa original designer nito. Sorry sa aking plagiarism moment.

Just trying it out with some of our colors.

But here is what really led me to looking for a monogram--having it applied in a DRY SEAL. Parang kumpanya lang! Magagamit ko to sa mga libro, mga sulat, Christmas card, etc.

Here are possible applications in wedding paraphernalia: table napkins, place cards, missalette covers, invitation envelopes and other stuff on paper. Love it!

I have to go to Recto/Quiapo para magpagawa ng dry seal. I'll update when I finally get it. I'm sure maa-addict ako sa pag sa-stamp.


UPDATE: June 30

Yahoo! Nandito na ang DRY SEAL! And it's so cute! I can't wait to apply it na sa mga DIY namin.

I had it done sa Recto for P1,800. :-)

Hanna and Joseph

Hanna and Joseph
Candle Sponsors

No, hindi sila mag-boyfriend or mag-asawa. Uma-acting lang sila dito sa eksenang 'to na parang bagong kasal sa kanilang bagong kusina. Hahaha! Ang totoo, lagi silang nagkukulitan nagbabarahan, at nagbi-bitchesahan. Sino kaya sa kanila ang mas bitchesa? Pero ang mas totoo, kami ay magkakaibigang tunay, na hinubog ng aming mga karanasan mula sa Kabataan News Network, mapunta man ng Astoria, Antipolo, Malacanan, o saan mang dako ng Teacher's Village.

So, pano ko ba sinabi sa kanila?

HANNA
Si Hanna una ko talagang naisip para maging commentator. So, sinabi ko na sa kanya yun. Mega-enthusiastic ang lola, kailan daw ba kami magpa-practice. So, one night... kumain kami ni Hanna sa Timog Food Plaza dahil meron akong ipapa-abot sa kanya sa isa pang katrabaho. Sunod kong inabot, isang card na madrama na makwela. Na-touch naman sya. Ngayon, may kapantay na yata ako sa excitement dito sa wedding na 'to. Gusto ni Hanna lagi mag-meeting sa progress, kailan daw ba kami magpupunta sa divisoria. Grabe, heaven sent!

JOSEPH
Inisipan namin ni Hanna ng gimmick. Sabi ni Hanna, gawan ko rin daw si Joseph ng card. Sabi ko naman, baka di ma-appreciate. So, katapus-tapusan, ginawan ko na lang sya ng matchbox na may magandang pabalat, na nandun ang sort of invitation na maging candle sponsor sya. E kaso binigay namin to sa kanya sa habang kumakain ng isaw, sa dilim. Natural di n'ya mabasa! Hahaha! Akala tuloy n'ya binibigyan ko s'ya ng gagaba na nasa loob ng box ng posporo. Imagine, ako magbibigay ng gagamba!

Tapos nung pauwi na kami kinwento namin kay Joseph na dapat sana card ang ibibigay ko sa kanya. Dapat daw nakalagay, "Joseph, I love you. That's why I have chosen you to be part of my entourage." Hahaha, classic Joseph 'to! Magawa nga!

SINGLE N.

This is not a "vent out" moment, although it may seem like it. I just want to share my recent frustration about acquiring documents from the church.
I am a non-practicing Catholic, but still Momon and I decided to get married in a church. First requirement: BAPTISMAL CERTIFICATE

We're now in the 6-month home stretch in wedding preps, and finally it's time to start working on the documents.

I went to Claret last week to get my baptismal certificate with the "for marriage purpose" seal. Lo and behold, my name is mispelled. My name is ROSANA. It is often mispelled with two Ns or two S's. I've gotten quiet used to it, actually, but I still find it irritating. I often find my name mispelled in almost everywhere when the one who types it down decides that s/he knows more than I or my parents do on how to spell my name. They always assume we made the mistake of removing one N, so they just correct it for us. Che! I usually applaud silently when new friends and colleagues spell my name right even if it's the first time I've introduced myself. Hay...

So, when I got the baptismal certificate, I think, "This is not really so bad. It's not a completely new name. It's just a typo." The church still prints out the certificate and I pay P50.

They tell me to come back with a photocopy of my birth certificate. And so I did. The church then issues me a series of documents: request for partial reconstruction, affidavit something, and attaches the photocopy of my birth certificate and baptismal certificate earlier issued. All for another P150. Then they tell me to go to the QC Chancery Office to apply for the reconstruction. Imagine, at this point pa lang, the cost of getting the baptismal certificate has quadrupled.

This morning, I called the QC Chancery Office to inquire about driving directions. Since I'm meticulous, I also asked the lady on the phone about the partial reconstruction. Buti na lang I called. She tells me that the aside from the endorsement from the church I need to submit the following:

1. Newly Issued Birth Certificate - So, di na pala pwede yung naka-attach.
2. Certified True Copy of School Records (Form 137 or TOR)
3. OR instead of #2, 3 valid IDs indicating my name and birthday. These IDs must be photocopied, and the photocopy must be notarized.

And the lady stressed, "Prelimenary requirements lang ito, ha? Pag sakaling di ma-satisfy ang magre-review baka humingi pa ng ibang proof of reconciliation." Wow. Bangko nga 2 valid IDs lang hinihingi e. This means I have to wait for the birth certificate with the "for marriage purpose" seal before I get my baptismal certificate. Not to mention the cost, of course. There's the additional cost for the notarization, transportation, and processing fees. P50 lang dapat to in the first place. Single N lang ang kaibahan. It does not change the number of syllables, the pronunciation, etc. Hay... they aim to complicate.

This certificate, which could have been easily crossed off our list may be the most difficult to acquire. :-(

I know other brides have more difficulties with documents than I do. This is just one bump in the road, nothing we can't handle. Go lang!

Joe San Antonio

6 months to go, and I've chosen my bridal gown designer: Joe San Antonio

The Story:
I've already written about my bridal gown dilemma/drama here:
http://rmacachor.multiply.com/journal/item/38

So, to finally zap myself out o that ditch, I met with two designers.

Gretchen Pichay
I went to Gretchen Pichay's house in New Manila, which is also her atelier. The whole basement/silong of her house is like her shop. Dun na rin nagtatahi.

She is very warm, simple lang, very casual. Unang ginawa n'ya was to review yung mga design pegs na binigay ko. Nagandahan sya particular sa neckline and train. So, from there, nag-sketch na sya agad.

Sketch Description:

* The neck/upper part is similar to my peg, with a sweetheart neckline. In the torso area, she put drapings in X pattern. She then put a pseudo belt with beadings. Lace with abound the drapings until the upper part of the skirt.
* At the back, she will execute my peg for the train, with electropleated cloth. She will also put a flower or ribbon at the waist.


My Choice:
JOE SAN ANTONIO
www.joesanantonio.multiply.com

I visited Joe San Antonio in her atelier in Eisenhower Tower, Greenhills.
Her office was more formal, more business like. She has all these colored pens and drawing tools. There were also a lot of magazine to browse.

From my pegs, she asked me which is my favorite--of course I say the neckline. She then sketched two designs, both applying the neckline I like.

Sketch 1
The bodice kas X pattered drapings, skimming the torso and ending in a horizontal line a bit below the butt. The skirt is a two-tiered bubble skirt, with the tiers moving in opposing directions.

Sketch 2
The neckline and bodice had the same concept, but this time she didn't have the horizontal cut. The X-pattern ended at the hips. Then, the lower portion is a combination of a-line and mermaid tiered chiffon.

Initial Thoughts:
I think what really appealed to me with Joe is her work ethic. She only accepts 4 to 5 bridal gowns per month to ensure the quality. Her office is neat. She has a cleint's info sheet, sample agreement form, rate card, her swatches were all in order, etc. In a situation where she and Gretchen were almost in the same footing, these things mattered.

The "this is it" feeling brides always refer to came to me after listing down my observations both for Gretchen and Joe.

I went alone to these meetings because I felt I needed to own this process. In the end, the decision will entirely rest on me. Since I consider this my waterloo, I feel will easily be persuaded by others, and I don't want that to happen. Therefore, I really just have to trust myself to know what it is I want.

Looking for a Designer

I'm trying to get a hold of the emotions I'm feeling now. Perhaps a blog entry would help me sort things out.

My current wedding task is focused on the wedding attire. For some people, this may be the first thing on their list, but for a t-shirt and pants girl like me, it isn't. Still, I know and acknowledge that the wedding attire is as weighty as one's church, reception venue, etc. Everyone will be judging--and I really mean judging--the bridal gown, right?

So, I do the drill. I research for endless nights for my, Momon's and the entourage's wedding attire inspirations and pegs. I'm not very hard to please, I think. So, for over several months now, I already have--what I think--is my dream wedding dress. Really, it's easy to choose among designs, cuts, and beaded drama when you're only 5 foot flat, not exactly svelt, and most of all, under a tight budget.

So, on to the next step: finding someone to execute design.

CORA
Our family has a trusted seamstress. I wouldn't call her a designer. She has never referred to herself as one. Her main focus in the fashion industry is office garments production, not really bridal.

Our experience with her has always been very positive. My mom and sister are both on the heavy side, and they have office tops and pants made by her. We've also had gowns for weddings and other special occasions done by her, all to our utmost satisfaction. We would gladly referred her to anyone looking for a seamstress.

Work ethic is fabulous. She comes to our house, instead of us going to her shop. She's more of a trusted colleague and partner, rather than a distant supplier.

I've been in contact with her over email. Last Sunday, she went to our house for a meeting to decide on fabric, designs, etc. She said that all these decisions will help her make an accurate quote.

Everything went well, and at the moment, I'm just waiting for her quote.

JOE AND GRETCHEN
Now... what to do next.
I feel I need to explore. Cora has mentioned that her bridal gowns start at P35,000. Hmmm... I felt it was pricey for someone who does not focus on bridal gowns. I'm sure, with all the information I get from W@W community, I'll be able to find a designer who specializes in bridal gowns, and will do it at the same or lower cost. If so all else is equal, I'll go with the latter.

Joe San Antonio and Gretchen Pichay are two young designers. From what I've seen in their Multiply portfolios, they are talented and creative. The W@W community has also showered them with good feedback. I'm looking forward to meeting them.


Managing My Lack of Entusiasm
Perhaps, meeting someone for the first time about this bridal gown, will bring my excitement up. I feel, I should start treating this as an adventure, as a new field to conquer, rather than a Waterloo.

I should allow myself to feel OK that I'm spending P30,000 ++ for a dress I am going to wear only once. I need to feel the moment, I need to feel OK about it in order to push myself to get the best option.

I need to stop over analyzing and just go with what my heart instructs. Something tells me, this bridal gown issue can not be resolve purely on reason, like I have been doing for some suppliers.

I need to own it.

The Feast

An unexpected accomplishment yesterday, Momon and I finalized the menu for our dinner party with Chef Giney Villar of Adarna Food and Culture.

I'm so glad to finally hurdle this task. I went to Adarna thrice to have lunch and dinner dates with the ulterior motive of tasting Chef Giney's concoctions, once with C5 and twice with bridesmaid Hanna. Ayoko nang bumalik, because I don't want the place to feel too familiar. I'm sure there will be more visits to come to finalize more things.


In the meantime, may I present our menu:

Almondigas Soup

Savory beafballs with fine misua. A certified comfort food.



Torta Espesyal

The goodness of fresh eggs steamed with olive oil and spices on a banana leaf with ground pork and shrimp. Served with Pan de Sal.

Sulu Piassok

Experience this exotic Sulu dish of beef chunks slow-cooked in smoked coconut cream and ten spices till tender--buttered, grilled and sliced just before serving. 



Buyabes Bicolano
Fresh vegetables and grilled seafood (fish, shrimp and squid) cooked with smoked coconut cream, spices and a hint of fish bagoong to remind one of a homespun Southern beach picnic.


Kangkong and Bagoong

Stir-fried kankong with bagoong topped with sweet and spicy dilis. Two quick Chinese-inspired concoctions in one!



Steamed Pandan Rice



Banana Peanut Roll

Ripe saba banana with roasted peanut cream in a crisp wrapper drizzled with old fashioned caramelo sauce.



Softdrinks


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Yay! Just a few thoughts on how we finally nailed it:

• Adarna has their set menus, but because I'm a brat, I wanted to have my own menu. Haha. What we did was to read through Adarna's ala carte menu and we made a shortlist. From this shortlist, we had several food tastings and proposed a menu to Chef Giney. She advised us on certain things, but in the end made some adjustments to fit the things that we already chose. She then made a costing for us. Pasok naman sa banga.
• We chose dishes based on the description, and whether they can be shared when served family-style, paired with other dishes, and the most important of all--the price.
• We also decided to forego the salad and noodles. Deadma na. We are not big vegetable eaters and we want to eat what we want to eat at our wedding. As for the pancit, it was a bit expensive, and slashing it was an easy choice.
• I was also agonizing about serving seafood. My dad doesn't eat pork anymore and is steering away from beef and chicken. So, a fish/seafood dish is a must. And I also think this is respectful to your guest who are similar to my dad. I am so glad that I tasted Buyabes at that exact time when we were just looking for something to complete the menu. Hanna and I had a moment.
• We chose softdrinks because it is the cheapest. Kung hindi ka umiinom ng softdrinks, magtubig ka na lang. Sorry po. Excuse na rin namin na "Pag softdrink, they get to choose pa kung cola, white cola, orange, rootbeer, etc. Meron pang light options! O di mas parang feeling nila na may choice sila kaysa kung ihain na lang ang walang kamatayang iced tea." Taray.
• Upon reading the menu again, hmmm... di naman kami masyadong mahilig sa smoked coconut cream, ano? Pero as long as Chef Giney said that this is a good combination, go! No worries, the Piassok doesn't really taste like it's cooked in coconut cream, basta nandun na lang s'ya. Hay... nagugutom ako.
• Pero nung nabasa ko ang menu, gusto ko lang magpaka-profound, deep, analytical, etc. Nadi-dissonance ako. Napansin ko we chose pieces na hindi naman talaga fancy: almondigas, torta, kangkong with bagoong, babana peanut roll e turon lang ito! Pero, wait till you see and try them... yun yon e! Meron silang twist! Pati kanin, steamed pandan rice pa talaga sya! O di ba? Hahaha! Mutual admiration society yata ang hanap ko.
• So there, we're quite pleased with ourselves. Sana magustuhan din ng mga bisita. Dami ko nang narinig na kahit anong ganda ng wedding kung pangit ang pagkain, wala rin. Kailangan daw memorable ang food. So, sige. I'm confident na kaya nating i-achieve ito. Pero ayoko na magpa-pressure. This is just one meal of their lives, at dahil mahal kami ng guests namin, kung anuman ang drama nila sa pagkain, patatawarin nila kami.

Some photos of the food HERE.

Cute!

Hi Mym, this is so sweet!





Eto naman, ang concept is meron two people, from two places, taking shots of themselves na pwedeng pag-dikitin to make another image.

Although di applicable satin yung concept na magkahiwalay kasi di naman tayo long-distance relationship. Pero maganda yung part sa dulo na pinagdi-dikit nila yung photos. We can actually do this shots na meron na tayo, sa Mekong trip, or any place for that matter. Ang pagdidikit ay sa actual edting na lang. Or pwede rin natin gawin yung sa kanila, na pinakita yung paggupit, ewan.

Pwedeng hanap tayo ng mga shots na applicable sa ganito nung mga bata pa tayo, tapos yung habang tumanda na tayo, yung mga magksama na.

Ayun, at least di masyadong mahirap i-execute. :)

Trip to Kamuning for Momon's Barong

Today, we zeroed in on probably the only thing exclusively related to the groom--the barong.

Momon and I went to Kamuning--Quezon City's textile and tailoring capital--to see sample designs and research on rates. I've spent a number of weekends in Kamuning with my parents when I was young. My dad had his office attires and fancy barongs made there. My dress for the junior prom, CAT uniform, bed sheets were all done there. Whenever we need cloth for school projects, it's always Kamuning.

Our experience today affirms again the classic case for weddings, where the bride seems to be more important than the groom. For girls, we scan so many dress designs on the internet until we find the one, then we spend so much time again looking for the designer to have the dress interpreted for us. We know for a fact, and we have accepted it, that the most expensive clothing we will ever buy in our lives, we will only wear once.

For grooms, they decide between the barong and the suit. Then, we learn about the different kinds of fabric, their value and their prestige. From there, we pick and choose the design and work with a tailor to have it done. Sabi ko pa kay Momon, "Pag nakapili ka na ng gusto mong fabric, bubuklatin natin lahat yan para makita natin ang buong embroidery." Sabi nya, "Hindi, pipili na lang ako kahit naka-fold."

Ang pinakamahal pala sa barong is the abaca from Aklan, then the pina, then the jusi. Combinations of two fibers fall in between. We wondered why we haven't seen so many grooms wearing the abaca when it's so elegant and expensive--sort of a status symbol. There's also the callado embroidery which has all inches of the cloth embroidered; and the raya embroidery which has the embroideries at the back and in the sleeves. The type of weaving, whether checkered or unidirectional also has a bearing on the cost.

Prices of Cloth
Pure Abaca - 12,000
Pina Abaca - 5,000

Pure Pina Raya - 6,500 to 7,500
Pure Pina - 3,000 to 4,000

Pina Silk Raya - 4,500
Pina Silk - 2,000 to 2,500

Pina Callado Front - 6,000
Pina Callado Full - 12,000

Pina Jusi - 700 to 1,500 (depends on design)

Prices of Tailoring (Labor and includes lining, buttons, zippers, etc)
Pina with Lining - 1,500
Pina Jusi - 850
Pants - 400
Barong Suit - 3,800
Suit with Pants - 3,800

Momon has decided that he does not want a barong suit. He wants it either the pure abaca or pure pina raya. According to him, the final decision will depend on the budget left from my gown expenses, and whether or not he wants to be able to wear the barong again for other ocsasions. Case in point, again.

We also saw some cloths for wedding gowns, really interesting! But my mom intiially said that she wants us to go to Lumban and buy our cloths there. We'll see. Momon and I are open to another field trip. :)

As of today, Feb 21

Momon and I officially started planning last Feb 8, 2009 when we had our ocular in Tagaytay. Here's where we are after one year of preps and 7 months before our wedding day.

Many things have changed from our original plan, all for the better, I trust. We've made wonderful progress in our decision making procedures and we feel very confident with where we currently are.

I wrote down even the littlest details.


PARTNERS BOOKED/ITEMS PURCHASED:

1. Church - Santuario de San Jose, Greenhills
2. Reception Venue and Caterer - Adarna Food and Culture
2. Photographer - Redsheep Photography
3. Videographer - Cinemaworks by John de Guzman
4. Party Favors - Bai Capture Photobooth (c/o Andrea)
5. HMUA for Ros and Moms - Chickoy Vistro
6. OTD Coordinator - Special Events by the Planner
7. Wedding Rings - Regina Santi
8. Lights and Sounds - Rejectkrew
9. Entourage Florist - Angel of Hearts
10. Reception Florist - Flowers of May
11. Invitations - Printed Matter
12. Pre-cana Seminar - Discovery Weekend
13. Wedding Cord - Beautiful Bonds
14. Entourage Favors - Vietnamese embroidery products
15. Honeymoon Flights
16. Earrings - Tiger Lilly
17. Reception decor - sari sari store set-up
18. Ros' shoes
19. Nail enamel for Ros

SHORTLISTED/READY TO BOOK:
If you have some comments or feedback on these, please let me know.

1. Gown - Our family seamstress, Gretchen Pichay for Ros
2. Barong - Kamuning textile market, Rhey Casedo
3. Cake - Estrel's Caramel Cake
4. Hotel Preparations - Astoria Plaza
5. Gift Registry - Rustan's and SM Department Store
6. Church Choir - Holy Family Parish choir
7. HMUA for Entourage - Angie dela Cerna or Darvs
8. Priest - from Santuario or from Discovery Weekend
9. Meals in hotel - our usual caterer
10. Projector - from Rejectkrew, or to be borrowed
11. Screen - Adarna

I also listed down other items needed, but which I might not necessarily acquire from any specific supplier. I just wanted to check with you if I missed anything.

FOR FURTHER RESEARCH:

1. Jewelry and Accessories
2. Shoes for Momon
3. Transportation
4. Choreographer

FROM FRIENDS:

1. Host - Jenny Orlina
2. Special Presentation - Abet Mesa

POSSIBLE DIY:

1. Printables - menu, table numbers, pew cards, missalettes
2. Save the Dates
3. Treats for guests en route to reception venue
4. Additional decor for stage

ONGOING/MONTHLY TASKS:

1. Fitness routine
2. Petitions to Sta. Clara and Pink Sisters (Dona Hemady)
3. Facials

Madami pang hindi nakalista dito. Sa ibang entry naman.

Attacking the MF 2

I guess it's inevitable. There will always be things that will go beyond your budget.
No matter how strong, how steadfast you are in your finances, it will not be perfect.

Utimately, it's your fault. Ikaw naman nagtakda ng mga numerong yan. Bakit kasi di mo nilagay, bakit mo kasi in-assume na ganito lang ang halaga? At ang pinakatanong, bakit kasi gusto mo yan kahit mahal at kahit wala naman nakalaan for that?

In all fairness to me, onting onting items pa lang ang over ako sa budget. At madami ang may savings. PERO, pagkakamali ko di ko is may mga items na hindi ko nilagay. Gaya na lang ng choir, at pre-cana seminar. I think as the date nears, may madadagdag pa.

So ngayon, meron akong bagong term: ATTACKING THE MF 2.
MF means MYMIE/MARRIAGE FUND. MF 2's are savings Momon and I separately have to prepare for married life. Iba pa sa savings namin together for the wedding. Halos lahat ng income ko, diretso sa MF 2. Yung Day to Day account ko, yun lang yun kung anong kailangan ko talaga, the rest MF 2 na.

But for cases like our oncoming trip to KL and Mekong, and like what I shared above, we have to dip into our MF 2. And as a way to desuade myself... I call this "dipping"... ATTACKING THE MF 2.

So far, wagi ako. Pag pumupunta sa bridal fair, I only look at things I need. I just breeze through the other items. I stay away from malls. I always remind myself, if I give in to the temptation, wala kaming kakainin. If I find something so pretty that somehow I just NEED to have it, I have to walk around and psyche myself out. I have to recite over and over that I'm ATTACKING THE MF 2.

I'm not feeling so good at the moment. Should I prepare for more attacks?
Hay.. ako lang naman gumagawa nito sa sarili ko.

RedSheep Photography

We have chosen Red Sheep Photography (Guj Tungpalan) as our photographer.

If you're a bride to be, I'm sure you've spent hours and hours online looking and drooling over wedding photos. And naturally so, when a certain album inspires you more about your perfect wedding day, you want the photographer to be part of your "dream team".

From what I've observed in W@W, choosing a photographer is second in importance to securing a ceremony and reception venue. I think this is because wedding websites always emphasize the importance of good documentation, stating that "this is once in a lifetime" and "moments will never be repeated" yadda yadda yadda. I also noticed that in bridal fairs, photographers are a natural stand out simply because photos are meant to be exhibited.

Further, like I explained in my entry about Cinemaworks, technical requirements for photography have become more accessible. New trends of retouching and post-processing also presented a new kind of art. All these contribute to a new definition of wedding photography--one that relies on the photographer's mastery of the instrument, talent and creativity.

So I guess,soon-to-weds (Ok, BRIDES only!) now have a mentality that the chosen wedding photographer needs to be top-notch, in order to immortalize and showcase in images all the wonderful things we experience in our weddings.

The Story:
Documentation was my non-negotiable. Duh, obvious naman. With my background in broadcast media production, my life revolved around recording things, making a presentation, etc. I am in fact a conference documenter. So, no brainer.

I started looking at wedding photography websites in Jan 2009. I don't need to warn you, alam mo na, nakaka-addict ito. Hindi sila nauubos, parating merong bagong photographer na pwedeng pag-aralan. Minsan alam mo na agad kung hindi mo gusto, minsan naman it takes a while bago ka ma-convince... may iba isang photo pa lang, in love ka na.

Tapos titingnan mo yung rate nila... biglang mahuhulog na lang ang shoulders mo. Ayun, wala na! Pero teka, baka naman pasok sa budget? So, ayun na, in denial ka kasi sabi mo yun ang non-negotiable mo e, so dapat pagkagastosan... hmmm... pa'no na?

In my case, sikat na sikat sa W@W sila Mimi and Karl. Magaling sila, there's no denying it. I searched all over the internet for their rates... hoping na mamakahanap ako ng info without asking them for their price range directly--- E WALA. So sige, email ako ng inquiry. Pagbalik... OK, OUT NA SILA. Ganon ka-simple, madaling madali ko lang natanggap.

So, hanapan na naman! This time very conscious na sa budget. Di na magpapadala sa kagandahan ng photos. After more lurking in W@W... I chanced upon Red Sheep Photography.

Initial reaction: UY! Promising... uy, ang ganda. Simple lang, pero glossy.

After further analysis: Ok to, walang ganong retouch, post processing. Natural ang look ng photos, onting vignetting here and there, ok na. Ang ganda ng kulay, matingkad.

After venturing into the RATES page: SHIYET! Lalo pang gumanda! Grabe, pano nangyari 'to? Email ko na s'ya, now na!

Initial Observations:
We met with Guj on May 2.

Prior to this we were in touch with him by emails. It was very relaxed talking to him. Parang magkaibigan agad kayo. Gusto ko yung fact that he answers everything promptly and very very clearly. Kasi ganon din ako mag-inquire e, talagang naka-number pa.

When we met with him, he was prepared. And I'm not talking about simpleng pagfo-folder lang ng mga photos. Naka-Front Row pa! He shared with us his concept of photography, he showed us how he covers the wedding, his style of post-processing, shots of details, and album layout. He even has a mock-up album that shows the different elements, para bang catalog. Ang contract nya, naka-Pages! E pano ba yan I love iLife!

One thing that I appreciated the most with Guj was that he didn't give our booking away. What happened was, we were already scheduled to meet, but there was also a bride who wanted to get our wedding date and pay ahead of us. Guj, the smart and professional guy that he is, didn't give the date away. Kasi nga naman, technically nauna pa rin kaming nag-inquire sa date and it was only because of scheduling matters why we were not able to meet with him to discuss. This one, I really really appreciate. I experienced first hand this similar experience with another supplier, but he gave the date to the one who paid first kahit na ako yung unang nag-inquire and we were just waiting for our meeting sked.

Needless to say, we were truly impressed. And the rate, the rate, the rate---it was a blessing.

Other Options:
Actually, we met first with Jeff and Lisa Photography.

I like their work, pero bottomline, it really wasn't fit for me. I think they specialize on the rustic, sepia feel. I also didn't like that when they met with us, they didn't have a presentation prepared. They just asked us to browse the album. I was even the one who asked them to show a sample of raw and edited photos, which they had to dig up from their computer.

We also considered Redefine Wedding by Jayson Arquiza and Photos by Ging by Ging Lorenzo. We did not proceed with the meetings because we already booked Red Sheep.


CLICK HERE to view some of their recent works.

Special Events by the Planner

We chose Special Events by the Planner as our On-the-day Coordinators.

The Story:
I don't want our families to be stressed during the wedding. Gusto ko para rin silang bisita, gusto ko wala silang aalalahanin. AT LALO NA AKO, AYOKONG MALOKA. Knowing myself, hanggang sa kadulu-duluhan, mage-effort pa rin ako sa pag-aayos. So, di ko na kailangan ng mega pagpapa-convince kung kukuha ba kami ng OTD Coordinator. Si Momon... go din sya!

After researching and tallying costs, feedback and other information, we chose to meet and book Love Daligdig of Special Events by the Planner. We met at Starbucks Zapote on May 31.

We prepared a set of questions, but by her presentation alone she was able to answer everything already. I guess ganon talaga dapat ang ma-feel mo pag kukuha ka ng coordinator. Kailangan ma-feel mo na they will take care of everything even before you ask them to. They will be on top of things, and you can just take a back seat.

Hmm... sasabihin ko na naman ba "because of my experience as a ______", in this case event coordinator. YAK! Parang lahat na lang yata may affinity ako, ang di ko pa lang yata nagawa is maging photobooth!

Pero sige na nga, dahil dati rin akong event coordinator, I know the demands of the job. Judging from our meeting with Love, I trust that she and her team will do a good job. Kahit ngayon nga pag nagco-consult ako sa kanya, she always responds promptly.

Other Options:
Wala, really. Hanggang online inquiry lang. We didn't meet up with anyone else.

Other Notes:
They honor the W@W Tag, and they have lots of partner suppliers who grant them discounts.

Rejectkrew

We booked Rejectkrew (Elmer Bautista) as our supplier for our Lights and Sounds.

The Story:
This is another no-brainer booking influenced by Weddings at Work. Elmer and his crew are one of the Top Ten Suppliers of 2009 and I’ve read numerous great reviews from other members. Di rin naman ako bago makipag-deal with lights and sounds supplier cause I used to work for events kaya alam ko na rin mga tatanungin ko. Nasagot rin n’ya lahat, syempre. Nagulat nga s’ya na tinatanong ko na yung mga ibang details like ingress and electricity requirements sa unang conversations pa lang namin. And of course, the most important, his rate is below our budget. So bakit pa namin papahirapan ang sarili namin… s’ya na.

Initial Observations:
As if this wasn’t enough, grabe, ang ganda ng attitude ni Elmer.

Una ko pa lang sya nakausap sa phone, na-feel ko kaagad ang enthusiasm n’ya sa trabaho at ang kasiyahan n’ya na s’ya ang napili namin. Sa lahat ng text, sobra s’yang magalang. Hanggang sa nagkita na kami… maayos s’yang kausap, marami s’yang ideas pero gusto n'ya malaman ang ideas ng couple para yun ang gagamitin n'yang inspiration. May “title” na nga s’ya para sa lighting na gagawin nya sa Adarna.

We also talked about things beyond his service. He shared his ideas about the whole reception program, mga crucial details that were truly helpful.

Soundbytes ni Elmer:

* Ako kasi Ma’am, hindi ko nililimitahan ang sarili ko sa trabaho ko lang. Na-experience ko na yung parang ako yung nagging coordinator. Ako yung tumatangap ng mga nagse-set-up na suppliers. Kasi naniniwala ako na para maging successful ang event, dapat lahat malinis, dapat nasa best form, at dapat magtulungan kami.
* Ang promise ko sa inyo Ma’am… actually hindi promise, guarantee. Ang guarantee ko sa inyo, hindi ako magpapatay ng ilaw at ng sounds hangga’t may bisita kayo.

So there, til October. Sana ma-experience rin namin ang mga na-experience ng mga nauna sakin. :)

Angel of Hearts

We booked Angel of Hearts (Lawrence and Lorry Jean Dela Rosa) as our supplier for our Entourage Bouquets.


The Story:
I honestly don't know how I feel about flowers... gusto ko ba sila, prioriy ko ba sila, or willing ba akong deadmahin lang sila? I ike flowers in general, yes. I arrange flowers in our house and I enjoy looking at them. Momon only gives me flowers for special occasions, so I guess di rin s'ya big on flowers. So, wala. Di ko alam kung nasaan sila sa rank ng mga priorities namin.

Pero for sure, kailangan namin ng flowers kasi ganon talaga. Alangan naman walang bouquet? Wala rin naman akong idea na pang-substitute.

I went to Dangwa/Manila Flower Center in Laong Laan for a meeting with Angel of Hearts. Although di ko pa sila nakaka-usap, wala pang anything, decided na kami ni Momon sa kanila. They were recently named one of Weddings @ Work’s Top Ten Suppliers, and the feedback of the members speaks volumes.

Initial Observations:
My meeting with them was quiet brief, walang ganong discussion except for me asking for the names of the flowers. They were very patient, kahit minsan umuulit na yung tanong ko, sinasagot pa rin nila. Ako na yung nagsasabing, “Ay natanong ko na pala yung kanina!” I felt Lorry Jean wanted to move forward already so I just listened to her after this.

Comment ko lang is sana mas maganda ang organization ng mga photos nila. When I saw the photos, they were classified according to use (ento, centerpiee, church, etc). Maybe they can bring it further and fix it by color and by kind of flower. Kasi for someone like me who doesn’t know a thing, it would have save a lot of time kung may ganong classification.

Napadali ang decision making because of one thing: COST.

Grabe, MY GAD ang mahal pala ng bulaklak. I mean… alam ko naman na hindi mura… pero na-shock pa rin ako. Imagine, isang bouquet ng cymbidium orchids P6000; yung tulips… P8000 ba? How can it be? Tapos after all that malalanta s'ya? Nyikes!

Buti naman yung favored flower ko ay kasama sa mga “cheap” flower selection. So, ganon ulit, dumali ang decision.

Grabe din ang quote for centerpieces, nakakalula! Ang simple centrepiece in a low vase – SIMPLE, TALAGANG NAKASPECIFY – ay P500. Pag tall vase, P800. And the vase is going to be pulled out, di mo maiuuwi. Couples Table is P4000; VIP Table is P5000.

Note that THIS IS NOT TO SAY that Angel of Hearts is expensive, it’s just that it took us by surprise, mainly because of our lack of knowledge of the price range and that flowers are not our priority.

Package Inclusions:

Flower Selection – roses, carnations, astromeria, statice and buttons

1 Bride
2 Mothers
2 Maids of Honor
3 Secondary Sponsors
3 Female Principal Sponsors

Package Cost: P8,000
Freebies (although I don’t think anything is really free, haha!): Tossing bouquet, car bouquet and petals

Next Steps:

We’ll have to come back around a month prior to the wedding to make the mock-up and finalize all the details.

I have to research some more and finalize my idea about my bouquet. Kasama na rin sa research and paghahanap ng simple and cheap centerpieces. Kung DIY, open rin kami dyan, pero kung for a small price may mao-offer ang Adarna, dun na lang.

Side Kwento:
Nung dumating ako sa shop may mga madre doon. Ang sweet nila. Bago sila umalis, mega greet sila saking ng best wishes, good luck. Yung isang madre, nag-kiss pa sakin. Hehe.

Ayan, for something na paulit-ulit kong sinabing wala akong true interest, ang dami ko pa ring sinabi no?

Grooms: The True Decision Makers

Sometimes I don't understand how I'm feeling about these wedding preps...

Minsan gusto ko nang magtuloy tuloy, ayusin na ang lahat... pero I also constantly remind myself that there is a time for everything. I have to prioritize my work and there are more urgent things to do.

Minsan din we read/hear/see something that seems so fabulous, so nice to have for our wedding... tapos sa moment na yun sobrang decided ka na, kahit pa mahal gusto mo pa rin, sinasabi mo sa sarili mo pasok sa budget, merong paraan!

Meron din namang time na wala kang gana, or simply wala kang time even to think about the wedding preps...


I always look to Momon in times of confusion, and he always quotes Michael Clayton, "I said to myself as clear as this may be, as potent a feeling as this is, as true a thing as I believe that I have witnessed today, it must wait. It must stand the test of time. (And Michael, the time is now.)" Madalas, when I'm completely stumped---wanting too many things at a time--Momon presents a decision that seems so logical I wonder why I never thought of it.

I guess grooms stand at a great vantage point. They are involved, no doubt. We may even be underestimating how much they think about the wedding. But they maintain a certain distance from all the details, therefore seeing things more objectively.

This is a bit unusual for my groom whose motto is "Indecision is the key to flexibility"--which I hate, by the way! But for this case, Momon has proven that he doesn't only tell me the things I want to hear, or agree to my suggestions for the sake of ending the discussion, but he truly helps me make a good decision.

So, I guess I'm not going to rant that my groom is not so involved with the preps. I'd say, he's involved enough--allowing me the freedom to plan my dream wedding with all the drama of doing so, and coming in during crucial times, like a rock I can always lean on to steady myself and keep me on track.

CINEMAWORKS by John De Guzman

Our Videographer:
CINEMAWORKS by John De Guzman

The Story:
Dati akala ko ayoko ng video coverage sa wedding. Minsan naiisip ko... sino bang manonood ng video? Yung mga video ko naman na nagba-ballet dati, inamag na; mga family travels, nanganganib nang amagin! Ganon din ba mangyayari sa video ng wedding namin?

Pero... iba na ngayon. Videos are uploaded, more easily accessible. You can easily replicate with a DVD burner. It's not just a documentation tool anymore, it's a tool for sharing your wedding to those who were not able to attend. Video equipment is now relatively cheaper, and getting a fabulous-quality video is no longer as expensive. Tapos may konsepto pa ng same-day edit/onsite video... ay iba na talaga. Dati editing suites are mounted in rooms, ngayon laptop at external drive, buo na!

Ay sus... all these coming from a person who works in video production. So, you can just expect how tedious my search was for our videographer. Sabi ko kay Momon, kung magpapa-video tayo, let's not get someone whose bread and butter is still photography--those two disciplines are definitely different. For me, pag photo, photo, pag video, video.

Ang tagal na nitong na-achieve. April and May when we started contacting and setting up meetings with them. We only met with two--Playback Productions by Pheoben Teocson and Cinemaworks by John De Guzman. It was July when we finalized our booking with the latter.

Other Option/s:

PLAYBACK BY PHEOBEN TEOCSON

PROs
1. Good clean lines, nice videos cut to the beat of the music.

2. Creative

CONs
1. I asked him if I can have a viewing of the output prior to him making it final, and if I have changes sa mga transitions, comments on the chosen videos, can he change it? He said no. Sabi nya ang pwede lang daw palitan is yung mga wrong spelling na pangalan, etc. Pero on the creative side, wala nang pwedeng gawin.

2. He does all the design of the album cover, and will also not revise.

3. I feel he does not capitalize on the natural sound.

4. Overuse of dolly and moving shots.


Our Choice:

CINEMAWORKS BY JOHN DE GUZMAN

1. Clean steady shots. - This is one of the primary reasons why I chose him. I'm not a big fan of handheld shots. I like the camera on the tripod cause it's easier on the eyes. This is the big difference with amateur and professional videogrpahers, they use the tripod.

2. Uses natural sound well. If you visit John's site, the SDE entitled "This Side" had a lot of the natural sound: the priest talking, people clapping, the guests laughing during the preps, etc. I think people tend to forget sometimes that in a video presentation, the audio is as important as the video. I find it really weird--irritating even-- when I see a person on screen, with his/her mouth opening but I can't hear the voice. I feel that a lot of emotions are lost when the voices of the people are muted.

If you watch docu's or the news you'll find that the audio is often two layered--the natural sound (voices, background, etc) and the music. Sometimes there are even sound effects, if needed.

3. Uses dolly and moving shots with purpose. This is my pet peeve. I watch some SDEs of W@W members, made by some other videographers, grabe... hilong hilo ako. Dolly (camera moves towards or away from the subject), tracking and other camera movements must be used with a purpose. Hindi lang for the sake of magamit. And this what I've seen in John's work. He's a filmmaker kasi e, and he knows the meaning of shots, and how to use them properly.

Additional things that swayed us to John's side:
1. The packaging of his video is a lot better than Pheoben's. He offers it in a leather or native case. Meron din crystal (plastic) case.

2. Time table of final video is also faster. Si Pheoben sometimes inaabot daw ng 6 mos kasi sa dami na rin ng kumukuha sa kanya.

3. John is open to revisions, basta lang hindi complete overhaul.

4. And of course, the cost. Pero at this point, the cost is just a bonus. More than enough na yung reasons I stated above.

***

Overall, they are both good videographers. They are very creative, have great composition of shots and very clean editing. What matters is how they tell the story, how they interpret the videos they gather into a clean narrative of your wedding. For me, this is where the natural sound/voices come in: to enrich the visual story.

The scenes we find on an SDE without voices is just like the scenes we'll find when we browse our photos.So para kalang nanood ng photos na gumagalaw. Our videos will have to go beyond that. Often times we just forget what we said, the vows we recited, the tone of voice, the laughter and reactions of the whole party. If the audio is in place in the videos, I believe that we can truly feel and relive that moment each time we watch our SDEs.


Here's a sample SDE by John.
CLICK HERE TO VIEW HIS WEBSITE.

Anna and Roddy / Same Day Edit from John de Guzman on Vimeo.

My Gown Inspirations

Ay Mym, grabe ang habang research nito!
Masaya pag nakakita ka na ng gown design na gusto mo talaga, kahit papano di ka na lost. Minsan kasi maganda pag nakikita mo sa model, pero pag iniisip mo naman kung OK ba yun sa katawan mo, naku, ewan ko na lang.

So, here are some of my wedding gown inspirations. Actually, halo halo. I labeled the photos here according to the item na gusto ko with that specific dress.

1. Neck and Back

Medyo favorite ko kasi sa pananamit itong si Jennifer Love. Lalo na sa mga outfit nya sa Ghost Whisperer, lagi s'yang fabulous don with the vintage lace, the very delicate designs, ang ganda. And I think we have a similar body type, somewhat, wide hips and small waist.

I like the design of the neck here, yun bang parang sort of popped collar. OK din sakin yung itsura ng sleeve, parang nakapatong lang. But the neckline, medyo itaas syempre kasi pupunta tayo sa simbahan. Haha.

The rest of the dress, OK lang sakin, pero hindi sya masyadong bongga for a bride.

2. Skirt

Sabi sa research, A-line daw ang bagay sa mga gaya kong vertically challenged. Tama ba? Haha!

So, ito below is like an interpretation na of the sort of same design as above, may mga slight changes lang. Pero what I'm looking at here is the skirt. I like the cinched waist because I want to emphasize my waist. I think the skirt here is nice, just enough grandeur, but still simple, and easy to walk with.

3. Train

I don't really want to have a long train, as in hindi talaga.
I'll need the help of my designer sa pagtranslate nitong train inspiration sa aking two thoughts sa taas. Hehe. Gusto ko kasi parang tie-in sa lace design sa taas.

4. Veil

I want a short veil lang, longest na yung sa waist, shortest is yung is sa between ng shoulder and elbow. I want a mantilla veil. :) Something like these two below.

5. Color

Gusto ko sana talaga is super pale pink. Pano ko kaya ipapasok?


Ayan, ang haba di ba?! Sana ma-achieve ko.

Adarna Food and Culture

We have chosen our reception venue:
ADARNA FOOD AND CULTURE, Kalayaan Avenue, Quezon City

The story:
Like I said in my previous blog entry, we initially wanted Sonya's Garden for our wedding reception. Pero Adarna was really the thing that convinced us to move the wedding to Metro Manila. When we dined here, I somehow felt the same awe as I did when we went to Sonya's Garden.

I love love places that are themed, yung bang hindi half-baked. Both Adarna and Sonya's are like that. They have their personality, they have a character na lutang na lutang pero hindi naman nakakaumay. Every corner, every decor is well-thought of, and the execution is a work of art by its owners and managers.

"Adarna Food and Culture is a restaurant that celebrates Filipino culinary heritage by serving historical, regional and heirloom recipes in a warm, elegant and homey setting," says their FB fanpage.

The things we like:
For me, I just like the fact that it's not the usual wedding venue, a place na hindi lang ang bride and groom ang pwedeng makita, but also the things exhibited in the restaurant. I like the thought na "unique" kahit papano ang wedding namin.

The menu is not the usual that we see in buffets, something that we can really explore and play with.

Also, we don't have to hire an event stylist to make the place beautiful. It's already pretty on its own.

I'm thankful that we're dealing directly with the chef and the owners. I love how they share their artistry to make our wedding a success.

Finally, I like that this place is a bit known to be a haven for NGOs, progressive civil society workers, and the like, being that the owner is a women's and girl child's rights activist. Haha, the NGO worker in me!

Still to do:
Since it's not one of the more popular venues, we have to make an extra effort to bring our coordinator, florists and lights and sounds suppliers for an ocular. Hindi pwedeng masabi na nakagawa na sila ng wedding doon. No problem, though.

More photos: http://rmacachor.multiply.com/photos/album/6/Adarna_Food_and_Culture

Santuario de San Jose, Greenhills

We have chosen our church for our matrimonial ceremony:
SANTUARIO DE SAN JOSE, Greenhills

The Story:
We initially decided to have our wedding in Tagaytay. Ang habang deliberation nito, meron pa kaming forms, kinompute pa namin ang travel time, advantages and disadvantages for our wedding party and for the guests. We went with C5 on an ocular trip of churches and reception venues last Feb 8, 2009. We visited San Antonio de Padua Quasi Parish, Our Lady of Lourdes, Chapel on the Hill and Caleruega. For reception venues, we visited Gourmet Cafe and Farms, Colossian Gardens, Josephine's, Ville Sommet and Sonya's Garden. We already booked suppliers with the premise of having our wedding in Tagaytay, with out of town fees stipulated in the contracts.

We were already negotiating with Sonya's Garden and San Antonio Quasi Parish, very ready to deposit our down payments. Then in July, my dad celebrated his birthday at Adarna Restaurant. Ay! Ang ganda ng place, all of a sudden namuo ang doubt sa mind ko kung gusto pa ba namin sa Tagaytay. Then, after talking about it, moving the wedding to Manila came like a natural choice for us.

SO... grabe ang haba ng intro...
Ayan, hanap na naman ng church. This part madali na lang, di na masyadong in-OA ang effort.

Other Options:
We looked at three churches.

First, TWIN HEARTS OF JESUS AND MARY, West Triangle, QC

This is a nice church, very simple and humble. Pahiga ang layout, with very open sides, allowing the breeze to come in freely. The altar is also pretty, with a nice elevated sort of gazebo-dome.

The rate is very fair P15,000; and the time available is 3PM. May resident priest na rin, so OK.

Problem lang is walang parking.

Second, OUR LADY OF LA CONSOLACION PARISH, Mira Nila, QC

This is a pretty church tucked inside the village of Mira Nila, which is also tucked inside the Tierra Pura subdivision. Ayun ang problem... it's tucked inside so many things. The accessibility is not fabulous!. :( Haha!

If you're the type who loves hidden gems, this is the place. The purple altar and the nice wooden beams are so elegant. The parking is vast!

But really, it's the accessibility factor.

Both of these churches are beautiful and we have no doubt any wedding held in these churches would be equally gorgeous.

Our Choice:

SANTUARIO DE SAN JOSE, Greenhills
I first encountered this church when I attended Agatha Galang's wedding to Shinji Yamada. I was the mass commentator. :)

The church has exquisite interiors, long aisle, ample parking, kumpleto sa special na upuan for parents and principal sponsors, sa gamit, may flowers na, lahat. Sanay na sanay sila sa wedding.

The real clincher is THE AIRCON. Momon is willing to pay an additional 10K for the air conditioning. So... who am I to object! Gusto ko rin ng aircon!

The only available slot for that day is 2PM, pero sige kahit mas gusto ko ang 4PM... ok na rin. Pray na lang ako na for some reason, hopefully not to the detriment of the couple who booked first, that I get the 4PM slot.

Here are some photos, not mine though.

So, there. Til October SSJ!